There is a specific kind of weighted tension that exists when a family like ours enters a public space. For years, I carried that heavy atmosphere on my shoulders like a thick cloak. I would walk into a restaurant or a park in Durban, my eyes scanning the room, instinctively bracing myself for the "look." You know the one the curious tilt of the head, the pitiful furrow of the brow, and the inevitable, whispered South African remark: "Ag shame, man. "But there was one particu